In self-employment:

Was I a good financial manager?

Was I a poor financial manager?

Was I honest?

Was I dishonest?

How?   When?   Who?

General:

Was I promiscuous?

Did I claim to be the seduced, not the seducer?

Did I damage other people and myself?

Did I spoil my marriage?

Did I injure my children?

Did I injure others?       Parents, families?

Did I use circumstances at home as an excuse for promiscuity?

Were my sexual actions unnatural?

Do I have anything that doesn't belong to me?

Have I lived with a faulty foundation to date?

Has self-centredness made me unable and unfit to form true partnerships with other human beings?

Have I ever sought to be a proper family member, a true friend, a team worker, and a valuable and helpful member of my community?

If we have been thorough in our efforts to date we will be aware of the special meaning and great value of the scripture -

"And be ye not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may prove  what is that good, acceptable, and perfect will of God"           Rom. 12:2

ADMISSION OF FAULTS

Confess your faults one to another, and pray for one another, THAT YE MAY BE HEALED.                                                     James 5:16

If we(freely) admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just (true to His own nature and promises) and will forgive our sins (dismiss our lawlessness) and continuously cleanse us from all unrighteousness- everything not in conformity to His will in purpose, thought and action. 1 John 1:9

The cracks, flaws, and trip wires that keep us tense and emotionally unstable, can be dealt with now, as we "clean house" and confide all our story to another person.  And that means ALL.

We humans cannot live with memories we hope to take to the grave.

Unconfessed guilt provides a guaranteed return to addiction - alcohol or otherwise and for the non-addict, an unstable life at best.

We take our time, and with God's help and direction, we select someone who understands our need.  Perhaps a pastor, or a person trained in this area, can be of assistance, or a close-mouthed friend of integrity.

But certainly no-one who can be hurt by our disclosures.  An understanding wife or family could well be in this category of being hurt.

At the appointed time, and in the presence of the Lord, we commence our long talk withholding nothing.

Often as we proceed a cleansing presence and peace come about such as we have never known, and we experience a special awareness of being one with God and man.